Setting Boundaries

Boundaries are a funny thing.

Most of us have them even though we don't fully know that we do. And then even if we are aware of them, and take the time to make ourselves aware of them, we seldom take the steps to make sure those we interact with daily are aware of what they are.

Why? Because we want to fit in, be liked, or avoid conflict.

Then, like some superhero we expect those we work with, live with, talk to, and come into contact with regularly to know what those "boundaries" are automatically and not to cross them.

It doesn't work like that. Be able to communicate honestly to those around you and let them know where your boundaries lie.

And if they are crossed, then YOU have to make the decision of whether to go on interacting with them, whether it be a temporary or permanent pause.

What happens if you decide to ignore it? Ignore the fact that the boundaries were crossed even after you openly communicated what they were? Well that is what I called the "stubbed my toe" syndrome and the explosion from something really simple seems to take over.

Speaking from experience, that doesn't work either.

Take some time this today, the next few days, or over the next week to sit with yourself and figure out where your boundaries lie. It could be with a toxic coworker, a friend, or even a family member.

Begin to see where you can acknowledge first to yourself that there are boundaries you have that are being crossed. Then, when you have honestly communicated them with yourself, you can begin to speak them to the other person. And hopefully a plan of action is put in place to keep both sides at peace.

If that does not happen, then my friend you have a choice to make.

Choose peace.

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